From A.K., Flower Mound, TX
Success with Tess has changed my life!!!!! You are my hero, Tess!
From J.R., Denton, TX
For me the simplest way to
look at Tess's coaching abilities is to look at my life before our
conversations and after. I did the work, anyone coached does the work,
but with questions she exploded a lot of limiting assumptions which
were impacting my motivation to live the life I wanted to live.
Before
Tess? I felt I had failed as an artist because I didn't get a large
commission from an investment bank I had pinned my hopes on. I threw my
efforts into construction, a job I didn't like for 60 hour weeks. I
came home to a house that was a fixer upper I couldn't find the
motivation to fix. I was a substance abuser when I felt my life was
like a train wreck, derailed and hopelessly stuck. I didn't even think
about dating then, who would want me. I had hopes and dreams I gave up
on, forgot who I was, and lived each day one day at a time... for over
six years going nowhere. My anger back then from my frustration and my
defensiveness from my shame gave me an explosive temper. My despair
that I could never win made be passively vindictive. Bitter would be a
shallow term to describe how I felt.
After Tess? I fixed up
the fixer-upper, sold it, and doubled it's value. I quit the job I
hated. I have dusted myself off and am applying myself into my arts,
and getting some results. My newer friends are artists, musicians,
theater people. I have had ups and downs, and will still have more, but
from the attitude Tess taught me I know now that if I'm down I just
need to get back up and try again... and not give up on myself. I have
re-discovered who I am, what I want out of my life, and I am going
after it with more vigor than I have ever known myself to have. I am
less angry, less resentful, less passive, less defensive because the
questions she has taught me to ask myself lead me to feel like I am not
a victim of life but an active player in a life that offers many
possibilities if I only try.
Anyone considering Tess for
coaching should reflect on how dramatic a change in life and lifestyle
I have had thanks to the questions she asked. If you are thinking in
circles and feeling totally trapped in your situation like I was, then
do yourself the favor that I did for myself and see if she can find the
pattern and help you find the way to break it.
The road to get
from where I was to here wasn't easy, some questions Tess raised was
painful and made me have to face a certain amount of personal
accountability I had been keeping in denial for a long time. However,
until that accountability is faced and embraced nothing changes, she
had just the right emotional sensitivity to help me face up to it
without being overcome with unproductive shame which would have
otherwise paralyzed me.
They say that freedom is worth any
price, and we tend to think of freedom only in terms of our system of
democracy or maybe financial freedom, but what Tess helped me to find
was a different kind of freedom. I was a prisoner in my own mind of my
fears and hurts I kept re-living, and if one is not free in one's mind
what difference does it make if they live in a democracy or in a
dictatorship?
If you don't feel free... then what is freedom
worth to you? I couldn't answer that question when I started, I forgot
what it was like to feel free, not sure if I ever really was before.
But now that I have that freedom within I know that it's worth any
price to have, and to preserve, I'd never go back to the way I was
living ever again.
